My wife and I hung those three words across the wall from our bed. We decided to hang them instead of the picture we purchased yesterday with the goal to remember what is really important.

Over the weekend we finally consolidated our two homes and redecorated our home TOgether. The result—a beautiful fusion of who we both are. Last night was our second night in a row going to bed right before the sun came up. Our place is so beautiful and we were so excited that we couldn’t sleep!  What we have accomplished in the past 2 days is utterly amazing. We have completely transformed every room in our home and the real beauty of it all is that it reflects US as a couple (and that we came in right around budget—thank you HGTV!). Real talk—without the decor and consolidation, wherever she is…is home to me.  As I lay here in bed I cannot help but to reflect on how much she has changed my whole life. We met by chance with nothing more than casual intentions. Little did I know that night I would meet the person I would share the rest of my life with. I remember how hard it was to leave her side after our second date. I could not understand why I could not just get up and go home. After finally forcing myself out the door, I found myself in my place sitting on the sofa sulking. I was extremely miserable about not being with a womyn that I didn’t even know a week ago? It didn’t make sense.

So fast forward to one day I came over after work and I never slept at my house again. No formal discussion about moving in together. It happened organically and in the right time. Fast forward to us in San Diego exchaning vows, runnning down a beach and then hopping in a drop top with the sun beaming down on us. Neither of us got on one knee to proposed. Again, it just felt right and we followed our hearts. Fast forward to us being married (and yes its still legal despite Prop )which is a whole other crazy experience.  Challenging yes. Hard? Yes. Worth it? Hell yes. Even when she gets on my nerves I want her riiiiight beside me. When we argue it usually ends with one of us saying to the other, “let’s be friends.” We try to stay mad but then we start to miss each other and we want it to end. That is because we are best friends. There is nothing I cannot do with my wife and vice versa. She’s my lover, rollout partner in crime, my tag team and my boo. Fast forward to our 6-month anniversary a month ago and how I would say I do again(and again and again) because I love her more than I did then. Fast forward to last week when we made our plans for the rest of the year. We crunched numbers. Updated our budget and decided it was really time for us to merge completely.  We’ve been in la la land and whenever we have free time we just want to be together so we never rushed the “merge.” My house just sat over there and we just stayed here. Fast forward to us both purging and throwing out things we don’t need.  3+ trips to Goodwill…a full clean out of the place I own…to the crazy ass movers…add to that to 2 days of shopping, unpacking, drilling holes in the walls, hanging mirrors, window treatments…sorting out our 94394949 books (we have a MEAN library)…completely flipping our bathroom from city chic into a nice day spa…cleaning…storing…We finished around 4 am this morning.  Fast forward waking up in our beautiful bedroom to see Love Laugh Live and remembering all that is important.